Uncovering our unconscious beliefs

Remember last week’s blog about ‘The Power to Create What we Want’ (Monday, February 20). We learnt about how our beliefs become a source of creation in our lives. We literally get what we expect.

If you believe weight-loss is difficult, then you will only have difficult experiences trying to lose weight. Alternatively if you believe that weight-loss occurs for you easily as you focus on listening to and trusting your body, you'll see it gradually and continually shift.

Our beliefs are the unconscious accumulation of a lifetime of idea’s taught to us by the behavior modeled around us. Most people don’t realize they can change the unsupportive beliefs they no-longer want creating their reality.

Our beliefs reside in our unconscious mind; you could go a whole life-time and never learn what they are, if you’re not willing to pay attention. Pay attention to what? 

Well, our lives, our body, our relationships, our income… our whole reality is a by-product of our belief system. Learn from your life what ideas/ beliefs must have been present in order to allow you to create your specific reality. (This could be a great weekly action item to observe your life, and find what kind of beliefs you must have in order to have the life you do…)

Fast forward one week, and you probably have a good list of beliefs you have identified by following their trail (in the current reality that you've created). Now the fun part is sorting them into two piles; write down in one list all the beliefs that help you get what you want… the ones that support you, and help you feel good (supportive Beliefs). The other pile are the beliefs that have created things you don’t want in your life, they are the beliefs that hold you back from what you want, and leave you feeling down, low and unhappy (unsupportive Beliefs).

Write them down into two lists now…. E.g.

Supportive Beliefs:                                                           

I can have a fulfilling career                                                

I live in peace                                                                      

I am surrounded by people who love me      

Unsupportive Beliefs
 
I never have enough…                     

People aren’t trust-worthy
I’ll always struggle with my weight

If there are any beliefs where you don’t know whether they are supportive or not, say them out loud to yourself, and notice how you feel when you say them. Supportive beliefs are encouraging; they feel positive, joyful, strengthening and helpful. The unsupportive beliefs make you feel unsure, scared, sad, down or low. Pay attention to your feelings to know if they are supportive or unsupportive. Trust yourself.

Now that you’ve divided them into two piles, you know what ones you want to keep and what ones you are ready to change. Next week’s blog will go into more detail teaching you how to change your unsupportive beliefs.

The Power to Create What we Want

We’ve all heard the new age adage that we are the creators of our own lives. What is this power of creation, how does it sculpt our lives and how can we use this knowledge to make the changes we want?

The Change Model visually describes how our beliefs (the idea’s we individually believe to be true) influence our thoughts, and likewise our thinking influences our feelings. Our feelings or emotional responses are what make the biggest impact on our choices. Continuing on from there our choices influence our actions and our actions create our reality. 

This Change Model contains powerful information about how we can create the life/ body we want. If our reality is merely a representation of our accumulated beliefs; then our life, our body,  and our current reality provides the most powerful feed-back system there is. Whatever we are happy with in our reality is a testament to the supportive beliefs that created them. Likewise, if there is something we don’t like in our life, then we can use this as feed-back to trace it to the unsupportive beliefs behind them.

Gina and I have used this information to create the figures and relationship with food we always wanted, as well as the career of our dreams, ideal partners, an ideal lifestyle and so on. 

Nevertheless  there are two main reasons why people can reject the idea that we create our reality:

1)      There are too many variables to consider ones self the sole creator of our own life.

2)      It can be too unappealing to consider ourselves responsible for our current life.

We both once struggled to comprehend how we are the creators of our world. Here are some of the idea’s that supported us. If we don’t consider ourselves the most powerful factor in creating the life we want, then we unconsciously choose to allow our community, family, church, government and or society at large to create our lives for us. Gina and I treasure our freedom, we love knowing that if there is something in our lives that we’d like to improve then we have absolute power to be able to make that change. Likewise, not accepting our power forces us to remain trapped in blaming others for our circumstances and rendering ourselves powerless to change. 

So, when we first tasted the pain of realising we had unconsciously created a lot of the circumstances that we didn’t like in our lives it was quite difficult. A large part of us wanted to reject that idea because it hurt us so much at the time... after it had simmered for a little while, our feelings began to change… It dawned on us with hopeful clarity that if we had created what we didn’t like in the past… we also had the power to create what we do want in the future. That’s when things really started to improve for us.

We now actively use our lives as a feed-back system. Seeing what we do like confirms the supportive beliefs we used to create it, and likewise when we see anything we don’t like we’re able to use our awareness to trace it back to an unsupportive belief. Spotting unsupportive beliefs and changing them is now a way of life for us both and is a powerful creating journey. If you'd like to know more about how to change unsupportive beliefs, go to http://www.lysaandgina.co.nz/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=80&Itemid=90 and get our FREE Book excerpts. Louise L. Hay puts it beautifully: "Life is very simple. We create our experiences by our thinking and feeling patterns. What believe about ourselves and our Life becomes true for us."

The strongest guiding force is within us

For many of us who have struggled with our weight, it’s common to think we are broken, messed up or just plain wrong. When we believe these unsupportive ideas we get trapped into looking to experts and professionals to find the answers we need. This can turn into a never-ending quest to find out how you can make the changes you want. It’s important to be discerning of the experts you turn to and always allow yourself to feel whether their information seems supportive of you and your goals or not. Just because someone has a professional title does not guarantee they will be able to help you.

Gina and I know that the most valuable information available to you is within you. The only way we were able to shed our excess weight was by learning how to go inside of ourselves and find answers there. We teach women how to go inside and access valuable information within themselves that they can use to create powerful change. 

For example: Being able to find your true desire behind wanting to shed excess weight is a powerful fuel to harness while slimming.  This inner fuel of desire enables people to pursue their goals with commitment and sustained vigor. We also teach women how to tune into their body to know what, when and how much they can eat to slim 1kg every week without dieting. It’s also important to live true to who you are; authenticity provides us with a profound level of vitality, a sense of ease and energy. Once we have slipped into our natural space of authenticity, you’ll find yourself eating less. When we aren’t living true to who we are we can fall into the trap of mistakenly using food to energise ourselves.  

We have learnt to trust ourselves and strive to live authentically. We encourage you whole heartedly to deepen into:

Trusting yourself to know what you truly want to eat (give yourself permission to enjoy all foods)

Trusting your bodily cues (feelings of hunger and satisfaction) to know when to eat and when you’ve had the right amount of food

Trust yourself to follow through on your intuitive promptings

Trust yourself to speak your honest opinions and views

Trust yourself to back yourself up, to support yourself no matter what

Shakti Gawain wraps up today’s blog beautifully, "On this amazing human journey of ours, the strongest guiding force we have is right within us."

Does fear stop you from really living?

Caroline Myss questions us powerfully, “Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it?”

It’s easy to read this quote and want to resound with a powerful ‘NO!’ All the while making second rate choices and ever so slightly or greatly resigning from what you want most. Get clear on what is really going on.

Whenever we want something, we unconsciously or consciously weigh up the effort, investment and potential risks involved in obtaining our desire. This is an important task. But have you trained your mind to focus on the risks, problems or obstacles to the point that you can't get moving on anything you want?

What if you spent more time thinking about having that which you desire most?

What might happen?

Go on, admit to yourself right now. What is it that I want most right now? Close your eyes, go within yourself and find your most sincere heart’s desire right now. Feel the feelings you’ll have once you have what is it that you desire most.

The secret is that imagining having what you desire most, can give you all the energy, vitality and enthusiasm to do whatever is necessary to obtain in reality what you want most.

Remember that there is effort, investment and many potential risks involved in all of your choices no matter what you’re shooting for. The idea of complete safety, assurance and guaranteed ease does not exist. So, if you are going to have to take risks, make investments and trust yourself to stay buoyed up despite the risks  - Go for what you truly want most! I dare ya!