It's not my fault - Fat Thought

“Fat Thought” 

It’s not my fault!

One of the most prevalent thoughts among those who struggle with their weight is, ‘It’s not my fault!’ It’s my Mother, she fed me too much. It’s my Father; he always drinks all weekend long. It’s my Aunty she always gave me sweets when I was sad, My Nana always served desserts after dinner, My Boyfriend is just one of those guys who can eat anything… We’ve heard so many unique variations on this. We had a plethora of people we blamed for our trouble with weight too! 

Blaming others seems to help us understand our situation better in the moment, but the truth... whenever we blame others for our choices, we render ourselves powerless to change. Because it’ true, all the people in our lives have differing degrees of influence over our thoughts, choices and behavior. But they have no more power to affect us than we choose to give them.

 “Slim Thought”  

I am responsible for me, I can create what I want, I’m free to choose.

Once Gina and I decided to take responsibility for ourselves we started becoming more aware of what we were choosing each moment. Once we saw opportunities to make choices, we focused more on what choices would be the ones to help us mover forward to where we wanted to be.

So many people avoid this step because it means acknowledging that we are the only ones who have gotten ourselves where they are. And that can hurt a lot, I was a size 20 at my biggest and it was so hard for me I didn’t want to admit that I had gotten myself there. But without making that painful step, you can’t go on to realize that you are the only one with the power to change your reality. So accepting this pain brings incredible power. Gina has an awesome affirmation that reminds us, ‘I am responsible for everything I think, feel, say and do’. It helps us to feel the power that comes when we know that we are free to choose in every moment. To know that we have to live with the consequences of our own actions.

Some people struggle with this idea, because it can plunge them into a pit of guilt. They feel so disappointed in themselves for making some of the decisions that they have in the past. This is likewise unproductive. We are each moving through out own personally trailored life of developing awareness and responsibility. We are always increasing in our understanding of our freedom wot choose and what a powerful gift it is. Rather than wallow in a pit of guilt and regretful decide make better use of your freedom from this very moment! What’s done is now thankfully in the past, and you are free to start creating what you do truly want for yourself today.