How Can I Get What I Want?

Have you ever said “I don’t want to eat that cake?” and then found yourself eating it? Why is it when we say we don’t want something, that’s exactly what we get? 

What happens when you say “don’t be late, don’t be late”?… You end up being late.  

Have you heard that our mind is composed of conscious and unconscious parts?  Our conscious mind is in control of our conscious will and is the part that sets goals.  Our unconscious mind is the part that goes through the motions required to reach our goal.

In order to be successful, you need your conscious mind and your unconscious mind to be in harmony.  One way to tell if your conscious and unconscious mind is in harmony, will be that you reach the goals you set for yourself. 

So how can you harmonise these two parts? 

First understand our unconscious mind cannot process negatives. It doesn’t process “don’t or no”. The unconscious mind doesn’t judge, it simply does what it is told.

Imagine I said to you “Don’t think of a big yellow canary”. What did you just see in your mind right now?  How come when I said don’t think of a big yellow canary, that’s what you see? Your unconscious mind will only focus on the big yellow canary and instantly produces a picture of one in your mind. 

So when we say, “I don’t want to be fat”, your unconscious mind processes the information as “I want to be fat” and that’s what you get. Or “I don’t want to eat the cake…” becomes “I want to eat the cake.”

“Here’s the problem. Most people are thinking about what theydon’t want, and they’re wondering why it shows up over and over again.” John Assaraf

Flip It 

Activity: In order to focus your mind on achieving your goal, play ‘Flip It’. Spend a few minutes listing all the things you commonly say you don’t want.  Then “Flip It” into a statement of what it is you do want. This is the most vital step to achieving the right mind-set.